Every seasoned couple can tell you that sometimes the bedroom can become a hot zone for more than one reason. Fights can erupt from something that, before moving in, would have made you laugh. He's leaving socks on the floor or she's hogging the bed; he wants a T.V. in the room, but she doesn't. The smallest things can set off World War III. Here's how to make your bedroom a place for love, not war.
A Clean Sweep
The first rule for keeping love alive and spats at bay is to keep your bedroom as clean as possible. Getting ride of extra "stuff" that comes from combining two lives can be a big part of that.
Simple things such as cleaning clutter off of the dresser and putting it in baskets, moving things from nightstands and putting them in drawers, and keeping clothes picked up can really make a difference. Removing extra furniture can help make your bedroom look cleaner, as well.
"It's so much easier to keep our room cleaner now that we took out some of the extra furniture," newlywed Carrie Snider of Yakima, Washington said in an email interview taken by the author in 2006. "It really opened up the space."
Romance Decor
Another important part of having a bedroom you both get excited about is to banish distractions such as a T.V. and video games. But, Kevin Decker, relationship expert, in an email interview taken by the author in 2006, suggests adding some things with your new spouse that will liven up the room and add to the romance:
- Candles: The glow of a flickering candle often sets the mood for love.
- Music: Add a portable CD player to your bedroom and pick up a CD or two that you, and your spouse, find romantic.
- Flowers: An inexpensive bouquet of flowers can add color and ambiance to your bedroom. Refresh them often with visits to your local flower shop.
- Soothing massage oils: A sensuous massage can be the perfect relaxation as part of your romantic evening.
- Furnishings: Include extra pillows for snuggling and at least one expensive sheet set for luxurious sleeping.
- Pictures: At least one of your favorite getaway places and a picture of the two of you having fun.
In the end, Decker sums up the basic idea you should have for your new home together, "The most important piece of your romantic bedroom are the people living in it. When they enter a bedroom that they've prepared to be loving, fun, and romantic, it's sure to be just that."
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